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INHIBITED SEXUAL DESIRE: WHAT IS NORMAL FOR YOU? EXPECTATIONS AND SEXUAL DESIRE DOING WHAT COMES NATURALLY"
Contrary to the popular notion that having sex is simply a matter of "doing what comes naturally," none of us automatically emerges as a complete, confident, and competent sexual being. We did not inherit a prepackaged sexual program that can be activated at the precise moment we need it to tell us what to think, feel, and do during sexual situations.
Although most of the time we did not realize that we were, learning or recognize what we were being taught, we did indeed learn to be sexual. Beginning in early childhood and continuing; throughout our lives, we learned our current sexual attitudes, beliefs, expectations, and behavior patterns from our families, fiction and films, our peers, and teachers and religious leaders.
From these sources we heard different, sometimes contradictory versions of, what sex was supposed to be like, and we were left on our own to figure out which version was right. We picked up ideas indirectly and at random, grasping bits and pieces of information about sex, ourselves, and how to relate to and communicate with other people. Some ideas came our way long before we could put them into practice, and others, which would have come in handy when we began having sex, didn't come our way at all. Sometimes receiving no messages about sex created the most confusion. But in some haphazard manner, we managed to gather some information that was accurate and useful, as well as a great deal that was either incomplete or extremely unrealistic. We often ended up with "facts" composed of grains of truth that had been exaggerated or distorted and plenty of ideas that were completely untrue. But we could not tell the difference, and wove it all into the fabric of our sexual scripts, creating a crazy quilt of what we believed sex was supposed to be like and where it fit into our lives.
Unfortunately, the ideas we incorporated into our scripts during childhood and adolescence are not so easily removed or revised later on in our lives. In fact, whether we realize it or not, those ideas still influence what we think, feel, and do about sex.
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Pharmacy Information
BIRTH CONTROL: LEGAL ASPECTS OF STERILIZATION
Sterilization for eugenic reasons is sanctioned in some states, particularly in tax-supported institutions. A doctor is free to perform sterilizing operations in these instances without concern for any legal consequences. If, however, the operation is done purely for reasons of health, the doctor's position is less safe, because he is not so well protected by state laws in these instances.
There are no uniform laws among the various states regarding sterilization. In California, malpractice suits against doctors resulting from surgery for sterilization are not usually covered by insurance companies. One study revealed269 that 87% of the physicians sampled who had performed vasectomies had never had suit brought against them because of this surgery, 8% had faced legal action, and 5% did not reply. Written consent by the patient affords the physician some measure of safety, but is no guarantee against a subsequent suit or even prosecution in a court of criminal law. Even eugenic sterilization is prohibited in four statesConnecticut, Kansas, Utah, and Montana.
Sterilization in Japan, though legal, is usually performed only upon women. In India, sterilization is limited to men, who are monetarily compensated for the time lost from work following the surgery.
As may be inferred from the foregoing, sterilization procedures are frequently preceded or followed by psychological repercussions that have their roots in anxiety: will there be a reduction of sexual desire; will masculinity or femininity be diminished? These fears can usually be assuaged by the reassurance of the surgeon through his careful explanation of all the ramifications of the operation. If emotional stress should persist, however, psychotherapy will often restore stability.
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